Hi… I know, it’s been a while. Life has been busy and well,
my time at our last base was actually pretty good. There were only a few
moments of drama, but overall, it was good. When the new commander came in, his
wife was super chill and actually really cool. For the first time at a base, I
had a group of really good friends who I regularly hung out with.
It sounds weird to say that it was the first time, right?
That doesn’t mean that I haven’t had great military friends, it just means that
I haven’t had many. That’s always been strange for me too, because I’ve never
had difficulty making friends and fitting in when it comes to real life, but I
am not great at being a military wife in general. I’m not sure why, but it is
the one time that I just can’t keep my opinions to myself.
When they were handing out the military wife Kool-Aid, I
must have been drinking from my own flask or something that day because the
phrase, “well, that’s military life,” makes me feel rage-y (yes, I know, not a word).
The point all of this babbling is that we’ve just moved to a
new base, so, here I am starting over again. After such a great experience, you’d
think it would be easy for me to dive right into meeting people again… But old
habits die hard and I’m gun shy after years of not really fitting in. It’s
incredibly difficult to be a social person who is antisocial at only one aspect
of life.It's also worth noting that this is the 6th move in less than 11 years, so I really should be better at this.
It’s not for lack of trying, though, I actually joined the
spouse Facebook page before arriving so that I could learn more about the area.
Then the messages started.
Here the lead spouse calls herself the “spouse mentor” and she
wrote to tell me that she needed my address because we’re technically in a
hurricane zone. (Um… I am from Florida .
I know it’s quite possible for a hurricane to hit this base, but it’s highly
unlikely for a real one, not just the leftovers, to hit here.) I stopped myself
from making the joke that I made 8 years ago about how I throw a great
hurricane party, because that did not go over well the first time.
Another spouse sent me a message that she is my “spouse
sponsor” (I have honestly never heard of a “spouse sponsor”. Active duty members often get sponsors at new
bases, but it’s optional and it doesn’t really have anything to do with the
spouse). She has messaged me 3 times in the past 2 weeks asking when as good
time to “drop by and chat” would be. I wasn’t even here for one of those weeks
and the other week, I was unpacking.
I also got 5 new friend requests on Facebook… But I haven’t
met any of these people, yet. I guess I kind of asked for it by joining the page and I’m
sure they mean well, but I only add people who I actually know.
The rational side of me knows that this is not the same as
the base 4 years ago… But my gut says to proceed with caution because you never
know. Eventually, my need to be social will win out and I’ll go to an event,
though. Starting over (again) is always hard, but if nothing else, it will give me a
reason to write.